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How Can You Make Tomorrow Glorious?

The glory of tomorrow is . . .

The glory of tomorrow is rooted in the drudgery of today.

Might as well get back to work.

Must. Keep. Going…

What quote, verse or motivation reminds you to keep at the discipline that will one day reap a benefit?

Quote from Streams in the Desert ©1997 by L. B. Cowman (affiliate link because I value the content)

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3 Steps to a New Husband: Rediscovering Your Man

These three steps will give you a new husband within the week.

Okay, so that might not be a promise I can keep. But chances are very high that you will have a better relationship with your husband if you daily practice these things. Everyone wants to know the short way to better relationship. Follow these keys to a man’s heart and your husband will take notice.

Wife Respecting Husband

Last week I shared some unofficial statistics about prayer that spurred this post. Prayer for Marriage topped the list of felt needs. It’s no big surprise that marriage, the most unifying human relationship with the greatest opportunity of rift, causes us to seek God’s help.

Prayer makes a difference in our relationships.

After exercising the suggestions from Marriage Tops Secret Prayer List, try these steps to a new husband.

3 Steps to a New Husband

1. Pray.

  • Change your prayer. Stop praying about your husband and how you need/want him to be different. Rather, learn to pray for him according to what the Bible says.  See Stop Praying About Your Husband: How to Pray For Him!
  • Pray to see specific things that would make your husband feel valued and respected. We have different triggers. Scratching his back may make one man feel valued, but do nothing of another.

2. Create a Respect List.

Make a list of things you can do to show respect for your husband. You may have to set aside time to create one, but keep it somewhere you can continue to add to it on the fly.

 3. Respect with words and actions.

Begin telling him daily at least one thing from your list that you respect him for. Show him respect with your body language. No angry faces, snarly smirks, or inappropriate eyebrow raises. Never say or act in such a way as to belittle him. Belittling scratches off all previous respect on his score card.

Resources for Marriage relationships (affiliate links because I value their insight):

His Needs, Her Needs by William Harley
Five Love Languages
by Gary Chapman
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura Schlessinger (Judeo world view)

How do you see respect affecting your marriage? What resources have you found helpful in growing a strong marriage?

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Stop Praying About Your Husband: How to Pray For Him

In praying for husbands,

wives should lay all expectations at Jesus’ feet.

That’s a hard one, but it’s the difference in praying about our husbands and praying for them.

Not that my younger self would’ve listened, but I wish that someone had told me when I got married that my husband wasn’t supposed to fulfill my every need or that I couldn’t change him.

Evidence shows that a high percentage of secret prayer involves marriage. See Marriage Tops Secret Prayer List: Discover You’re Not Alone.

Confess Our Need

Each prayer for our husbands should include our confession that

we look to God to meet our needs and accept our husbands as they are,

allowing God to make any changes that he deems worthy. Neither of us are perfect, but God is and he can perfect us.

Let’s begin our attitude of prayer with the truth that

we should be our husband’s best cheerleaders.

And in that role, we can pray to God:

  • Make me his good helper, companion, champion, friend and support.
  • Help me create a peaceful, restful, safe place for him to come home to.
  • Teach me to take care of myself and stay attractive to him.
  • Grow me into a creative and confident woman who is rich in mind, soul and spirit.
  • Make me the kind of woman he can be proud to say is his wife.

Praying Earnestly for My Husband’s Best

Prayer Card for Husbands

God please:

  • Give him strength to lead, time to know his family, and passion to manage his home. (Joshua1:7, Jn10:14, 1Tim3:4)
  •  Bless his work and show him daily how to honor You in his attitude and spirit; confirm the work of his hands unto Your purpose. (Ps90:16+, Dan6)
  •  Make him a wise steward of our finances and all we possess, remembering that all things are Yours and entrusted to us for Your purposes. (Mt6:19+, Luke16:10+)
  •  Help him love You with all his heart, soul, mind and strength, and hate evil. (Mk12:30, Ps97:10)
  •  Make him quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger. (Jam1:19)
  •  Protect him physically, mentally and spiritually. (Ps28:7+, Ps41, Jn17:15, 2Thes3:3)
  •  Give him the desire to teach and model a godly lifestyle for his children. (Dt6, Ps78:5+)
  •  Instruct him and teach him the way he should go; give him peace in the circumstances and integrity in decisions he must face today. (Ps32:8, 1Cor14:33, Pr11:3)
  •  Bring him to meditate day and night on Your Word, pray without ceasing and stay faithful to Christ to the end. (Ps1:1+, Ps119:18,73, 1Thes5:17, Hb12:1+)
  •  Develop for him strong relationships with other godly men. (Ep4:24+, Hb10:24)

Prayer excerpted from “Lifting My Husband Through Prayer” by FamilyLife ©2006 (No longer offered on their website.)

How can you change your prayer habits to make your marriage stronger? What additional requests can we pray for ourselves or for our husbands?

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Marriage Tops Secret Prayer List: Discover You’re Not Alone

After years of counseling women, I’ve noticed that nearly every one carries some kind of relationship burden.

Their prayer requests and private conversations are loaded with relationship issues. The dominant prayer topics are for their children or spouse.

Couple in Relationship Trouble

Marriage Hurts

The marital relationship is the most crucial one in the heart of women.

Recently, after coming home from an event, I was contacted by two women desperate for help in their marriages. Neither attended that day’s event and they lived over 175 miles away from each other. Yet their cry seemed universal.

“My marriage is the pits.” 

After encouraging these women, I had a bright idea.

In the past, I’d taken written prayer requests from women at church events. Why not dig them out of my files, sort them into categories and find the percentage breakdown? I found a correlation between their prayer and their relations.

Unofficial Research

Obviously, this is no official research such as Barna, but it is my findings concerning prayer for relationships.

Prayer Request Percentage

The percentage of prayer requests concerning marriage was much higher than any other type of prayer need recorded.

  • The marriage/spouse requests outpaced the rest at 45% of the group.
  • The requests for their children and step-children came in at 33% of the group.
  • The remaining 22% is a special case. I grouped them together. Many were for other families emphasizing trouble among its members. Odds are pretty high that many of these requests include hidden prayer for marriages.

Christians don’t often admit we’re having trouble with our kids and we surely don’t want others to know our marriage is horrible. We try to keep appearances of having it together, yet the divorce rate is just as high with believers as it is for non-believers.

A bad marriage makes us feel powerless and hopeless, like giving up. Yet, the reality is that we are much more vulnerable than helpless.

We have a 50% chance at minimum to make a bad marriage good, or a good one even better. We are half the answer. If we choose, we can work to change our relationship. And that’s not helpless. Vulnerable maybe, but not powerless.

We can Make a Difference

Change is hard. One way to make the relationship better is for us to change for the better. Here are some things we can do to initiate the desired change:

  • Check our attitude. (Momma was right on this one.)
  • Place a guard over our words.
  • Understand our own imperfections which allows us to offer grace to others in their weaknesses.
  • Trust God to love and keep us safe even if we can’t trust the person who hurt us.

Yes, we are quite vulnerable. But if we add complete faith in God, we are even more effective in changing.

God knows it all.

He already knows the circumstance you’re in and your thoughts about it. “Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight…” (Hb 4:13). In that case, we should want to discipline and clean our personal and spiritual lives.

Learning to pray conversationally is key to becoming spiritually fit.

Since God knows what we’re thinking, we can tattle to him about others. Venting with God slowly changes the way we think and act, because prayer changes us.

I wrote a training/mentoring book to teach others how to pray in this way. Come Awake has 21 days of exercises and takes the reader though the prayer process while reading the Gospel of John.

When we learn to pray and focus on God, obeying him in all things, our chances of change rises above 50%. In our obedience to God, we pray for the best things to come to the other person and we stop our selfish actions.

We need all the help we can get, because relationships are hard. They are heavy weights in our emotional wellbeing. The closer the relationship, the more weight it holds for possible joy and inevitable pain. I love the line from the movie, The Help. “Love and hate are two horns on the same goat…” And we have to have goats, those close relationships.

Please share what help you have to offer. What are your most pressing prayer requests? How could you change to create better relationships?

Here is a post to help women in make their marriage better: 3 Steps to a New Husband.

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Two Life-Changing Tools for Spiritual Growth

While I was MC-ing Yahweh Street Ministries Ladies Retreat, I gave a brief devotion emphasizing our need to spend time with God. I shared answers to feeling spiritually adrift and longing for something more, a life change or spiritual growth. Two things make the difference: listening to, and responding to, God.

Come Awake Cover 3D

Learning to listen and respond to God with Come Awake

Out of my desire to help others find the missing spiritual piece in their lives, I wrote Come Awake. The book is a devotional/journal training manual. It’s what I use to mentor people who want to grow closer to God and work out their lives to gain inner peace. In it teach reading the Bible for life-change and how to respond in prayer. If you’re looking for someone to help you strengthen your spiritual life, use God’s word and pray effectively, then I suggest trying Come Awake. And if you are mentoring others you can order copies to aid your work with them.

NT in 75 Days

Reading NT in 75 Days

Reading the Bible in such a way as to hear God speak into your life situation is a powerful life changer. Another tool I’m using to help me read the Bible is the New Testament in 75 Days app for Apple products. I’ve had several ask for the link to the app. Check it out. If you don’t have Apple capability you can download the NT in 75 Days Reading Schedule and read along using your own Bible or an online one.

As you will find in Come Awake, you can change your life by reading and praying in only 20 minutes a day. I stretch it to 30 minutes when I have time. Anybody can find 20 minutes to invest in a life-changing relationship with God. I challenge mentorees to put effort into spending time with God this way, setting aside 20 minutes five or six days a week for at least 21 days in a row. Twenty-one days is usually the amount of time for creating habits. And how cool is it to have created a habit of spending meaningful time with God!

How do you mentor and lead people in spiritual growth? What have you found to help you read God’s Word and respond in prayer?

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Riding Around Africa

I slept very comfortably in a grass hut. During the night, if we had to use the toilet we walked outside to another hut with a concreted porta-potty kind of thing. It had a toilet seat concreted into a raised sitting spot that went straight into an underground tank. Comfy-at-night feeling.

Waterfall at Sipi Falls

Waterfall at Sipi Falls

Chuck didn’t sleep very well. The altitude sickness from the evening before wasn’t letting up. He was looking forward to getting back down the mountain this morning to see if he got better. Iganga’s elevation where the orphanage is based is about 3600 ft above sea level and Sipi Falls Lodge about 6700 ft in the foothills of Mt. Elgon in eastern Uganda, almost to Kenya. That’s nothing compared to 40,000 ft for about 22 hours flying there (link to flight post).

Early, James knocked to see if we wanted to hike up to the falls. I wanted to, but Chuck was feeling pretty bad so I stayed with him. James, Jacque and Mike took off to climb the slippery, red-mud slopes. It took them about two hours to make the hike to the second waterfall taking pictures and sliding most of the way.

After they left, I went to take a shower which was located in a separate grass hut. It was exquisite in decor. The shower head dripped over flat and smooth rocks where my feet went. The drain was hidden under the rocks. The hot water was non-existent. Well, there was occasional flash of warmer water, but it mostly felt ice cold like the water from the Sipi River. Since the weather was cold 50-60ish and rainy, I was VERY reluctant to jump in the shower. No hair washing today!

After re-packing my backpack, I walked up the hill to the main lodge for coffee and breakfast. I needed some warmth. Sipi Falls Lodge was like a royalty treatment in grass huts. The food was delicious and served with special yummy-ness. The total cost of this romantic getaway was about $60 a night per person and that included three meals.

Riding Around Africa

We loaded into the van for the ride home. The beauty of the valley below with the clouds wisping through was awesome. I was totally struck with the thought, “Hey, I’m riding around Africa!”

Driving the mountain

Driving the mountain

On the road, we came to a police check point. The police have stations where they stand on the side of the road stopping traffic whenever they have a whim. They wear camo, carry their AK-47′s, look over the van and ask questions like: Where are you going? Where have you been? What are you going to do? This time they made a request for us to give them a book. Cameron gave him his Bible, then he let us pass. I was pretty scared sitting in the back of the van watching another policeman watching the van. I found out after we were allowed to pass that Jacque was fearful too. (Sorry, no pictures were allowed of police. I didn’t want to get arrested!)

On down the road, Chuck saw monkeys in the forest trees. Jacque and I stuck our heads out the window to look for some. When we didn’t see them right away, we started making monkey sounds hollering into the trees as we whizzed by in the van. At that speed, who knows if I saw one or not. Maybe I did.

Celebration with the Orphans

With only a four hour trip home, we pulled into the missionary house to get ready for the party that night. We took streamers, animal crackers, cake mix and party balloons to have a party for the kids. A regular feast was fixed with rice, beans, chicken, beef, fish, cabbage, peppers, onions, ground innards (a pretty tasty paste made up of …, guess), and soda pop.

Party Streamers with the Orphans

Party Streamers with the Orphans

Chuck took a turn for the worse by the time we got him into bed. Fever spiked and decisions had to be made about doctor, clinic, or go buy some more of the same antibiotics he had already finished the day before. We opted to buy more medicine which anyone can buy without prescriptions in Uganda. We were to fly out the next day and it was already late into the night. He laid in bed while the kids prayed for him in the courtyard. They sang their prayer. Although I fretted about Chuck, their song was beautiful. Chuck dozed and the party began.

We ate played and visited with the kids. We witnessed the whole lot of orphans getting in trouble by Susan. The amount of respect she warrants isn’t to be trifled with. They mind. This might be the reason they are so respectful with us. It’s easy to see the love they have for Susan and her love for them. The party was a hit even though there were obstacles. We had a blast, but in our thoughts was the fact that this was the last night to see the kids.

Before bed we packed part of our bags for the trip home. Click to see more pictures on FaceBook.

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Travel to Romantic Sipi Falls for Rest

This morning we went had a good breakfast and went to the orphanage to finish setting up the solar lights and water filter (no more boiling their drinking water). We rode in the back of Phil’s truck, standing up holding onto the rack. Which is common. We saw many Uganda buses, flatbed trucks with rails where people stand and hold on. Every time we walked to the orphanage, we gathered stares from the people on the streets, but riding in the truck like this made us feel like we were in a real parade. “Watch the mzungus” (white people). We smiled and waved back to the people as we rode by. One must wave like a parade queen in Uganda anyway. The folding-fingers-over-palm wave is their way of calling their children to come to them. (Phil used this kind of wave to call me from the van to the porch to meet some school officials.)

Water Filter Barrel in Orphanage

Water Filter Barrel in Orphanage

After the few chores were finished at the kids house, we loaded back into the truck and went back to the missionary house. Everything was ready for our trip of rest. We reloaded into the van with an overnight bag and water bottles to go to Sipi Falls for a much needed rest. We really wanted to stay with the kids, but this scheduled respite was needed. We stopped to pick up Susan, her mother and baby Kaith then got on our way.

The drive was to be four hours in the direction of Kenya. That’s a long trip considering that every village uses huge speed bumps to slow traffic. That’s on top of the pot holes that take up most of the road. Phil said the roads will be fixed and reworked when an election is upcoming. I guess, politicians in every country want votes and do things to get them.

We rode in a new-to-the-ministry van that had “new” seats which were very comfortable. The drive took much longer because the van kept getting overheated. We stopped often to pour our water bottles into the radiator. Once we began to run out we had help form the locals who fetched the water from a river or somewhere that had dirty reddish water. The ground in Uganda is red and the water has a red tint. The dirt is sort of like the red clay stuff on the baseball diamond. Turns out the van was fresh from Tokyo and had some strange blanket over the radiator making it heat up.

Ocean of African Plains

African Dog Overlooking Ocean of African Plains

African Dog Overlooking Ocean of African Plains

As we approached Sipi Falls, mountains rose out of the plain. These mountains are not quite like any I’ve seen in America. They were beautiful like ours but different. Cows grazed and farmers walked the steep hillside working crops in places similar to the ones the goats and sheep bound from in Yellowstone. Once we were in the mountains and looked back, it seemed like an ocean of African plains laid below as far as the eye could see.

Uganda Orphan Mission Team at Sipi Falls

Uganda Orphan Mission Team at Sipi Falls

Uganda Orphan Mission Team at Sipi Falls

Eight hours or so later, our van finally made it to our overnight place. We pulled in and had a European lunch that should have been served at 1 but we were arriving at 5. That’s Uganda time again. One never knows what will happen or when. We ate “lunch” then hiked a short trail to a handmade cave under the first water fall. It had rained and the red dirt was mud. Sipi Falls was more like Slippery Falls.

European Elegant Dining at Sipi Falls

European Elegant Dining at Sipi Falls

Once we started out on the trail about 6 youths joined us to hold our hands and be tour guides. I had one on each hand to keep me from slipping. They were barefoot and kept solid footing the whole time. I might as well been in ice skates and I don’t skate! We slid back for dinner by 7:30. We dined in elegance in an African hut rustic meets Europe kind of place. European foods (A creamy fish soup to start off served with big crusty rolls and jam, followed by curried chicken and rice with steamed veggies, then brownies which were more of an unsweetened, bitter chocolate version, and African Tea. Chuck got altitude sickness and missed the meal.

 Grass Hut Experience

Grass Hut at Sipi Falls

Grass Hut at Sipi Falls

Inside Grass Hut at Sipi Falls

Inside Grass Hut at Sipi Falls

Grass Hut Keeping us Dry

Grass Hut Keeping us Dry

After dinner, I went with Chuck to our grass-roofed hut for the night leaving the team visiting with their African coffee and tea. It was raining and dark out, but we were amazingly dry in our grass hut. Once again, it was so elegant and quaint. The grass on the roof was at least 12 inches thick and the edge of the roof showed only the first inch wet. The bed and night stands were rocked into the hut with a foam mattress to rest on. The bathrooms were in a separate grass hut and the showers were in another.

Chuck and I at Sipi Falls

Chuck and I at Sipi Falls

Sipi Falls is a very romantic kind of place. We slept with the roar of the waterfall lulling us to sleep. Through our opened door, the morning light held a splendid view of the falls with beautiful foliage surrounding.

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Sunday Worship, Dinner and Gifts

Sunday we got up and had lazy morning and breakfast. Uganda time ruled. We rode in the van to church and Chuck was prepared to preach because he was told the night before that they would ask him. The church was held in Grace School where the orphans attend.

Worship

(YouTube of kids singing at Burial)

When we drove up we could hear the singing and clapping with the drum. Their voices carried. I was excited to see them again. The church was a homemade brick building with plaster. It was painted and had smooth concrete floor. Openings were in the walls for windows, but there was nothing covering the holes. There was one doorway without a door. Homemade school benches were arranged on one end like pews. They had a plank for a seat and another for a desk and would sit 3 adults comfortably. The orphans put on their best clothes for church. Africans like to dress up and they are the cleanest of people.

There were several choirs, one of younger children, another of older children and then one a little older. The church has a program director that was a woman. She introduced us to the pastor and congregation using Kenneth as an interpreter. A lady stood and asked for prayer and healing for her baby. The four to six week old boy had accidentally had boiling hot water dropped on his foot. This boiling water was extreme because they cook on open flame which makes boiling water bubble over.  During one of the songs the mother came and laid the baby in my arms. The skin and some of the flesh was gone on the top of his foot. Some whitish cream was applied to his raw foot. I managed to hold my breakfast by focusing on the baby’s pleasant face.  He sucked his fingers and didn’t make a fuss. His big brown eyes were clear and he looked healthy and content except for his foot. I rocked the precious little one to sleep and felt honored to hold the baby. (Sorry I don’t have a picture of this precious one. He was the son of the local pastor.)

It seems that everywhere I go someone is handing me a baby. I’ve held more babies in Uganda than I have in years. See baby here. The women in Uganda are proud of their babies and sharing them must be their way of showing them off. I guess they give them to me since I’m older than Jacque. I’m not really one who takes up babies every time I see them, but in Africa I became that person.

Kenneth, Our Guide and Protector

Kenneth, Our Guide and Protector, eating American Pop-Tarts

The lady program director asked us to stand and introduce ourselves. We spoke with Kenneth interpreting. They church applauded that I travel to different churches speaking and encouraging women to love Jesus with all their heart. As predicted Chuck preached with Kenneth interpreting and then we visited shortly with the members before leaving. Phil pulled Fiona out of the crowd of orphans and gave her to Jacque with, “This one is with us.” Fiona loaded into the van with us and we left. We stopped to pick up Susan along the way to Mum, the resort hotel for lunch.

Dinner at Mums in Iganga

We drove through a gate and to the left, under a grass roofed cabana was a pool table with a guard standing near. The men in our team quickly noticed the AK-47 lying on the pool table. We drove on in and parked. The hotel attendant, servant met us and escorted us to a table under a carport and another brought out menus. Phil and Susan said the Shallow fried Tilapia was yummy. It was served whole, head and all, with stewed tomatoes, peppers and onions on top. I’ve never had a better piece of fish, even with the eyeballs looking at me. (Susan ate the eyes.)

It was a joy to see Fiona drinking cold orange Fanta, making a face with each sip, and eating chicken and chips, which are french fries. Apparently cold food and drink is strange to Fiona. She doesn’t get cold stuff. The orphans eat posho and beans or porridge that is made with the same posho corn flour. Fiona put the food away.

After a wonderful dinner, we visited. Some talked about sleeping on the van rode home, others talked about dessert. Phil stopped the van on the way and Susan hopped out. She went in to the store and came back with Ugandan ice cream for every one. It was very good, sort of like melorine, the ice cream I had at my grandmother’s when I was growing up. You should have seen Fiona’s face as she tried it. She like the taste but not the cold. After eating all that food Fiona’s belly was pouching.

Fiona with Jacque and Mike

Fiona with Jacque and Mike

We arrived back at the missionary house full. Some wanted to take a nap, others wanted to finish setting up the solor lights in the orphans rooms and others went shopping to buy new soccer balls for the kids. Jacque sat on the front porch with Fiona sleeping in her lap. I sat with her working on these blog posts and visiting with her.

African Gifts and Dress

Later Susan arrived and started cooking a Ugandan pasta with beef bits and veggies. Yummy. Before dinner was ready she took Jacque and I to the back room and tied a scarf over our eyes. Then she dressed us and turned out the lights and called the men. The men came in and when she turned on the lights Jacque and I heard all kinds of ooo’s ahd ahh’s. Susan had dressed us in the traditional African dresses with poofy sleeves. She unblindfolded us and we got to see each other. Her’s was pretty pink and mine was wonderful blue. Absolutely gorgeous dresses.

Gifted Dresses

Gifted Dresses

While Susan had us blindfolded the kids came into the back courtyard for the rest of the movie. After the guys gave us their opinion, Jacque and I walked out back to show the kids our new threads and they all loved it. They clapped and laughed heartily. They love it when we try learning their native, tribal language and now we were wearing their cultural clothes. They loved it.

Robin hugging little orphan girl

Holding little orphan girl

These children are so happy. They love to laugh and genuinely love to see us. If you ever get depressed you should come to Uganda. These pretty smiles will cheer you up. My face hurts from smiling back.

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Uganda Caning on the Blindside

After a late night of using the currently-working sporadic internet, we arose early. I was excited about going back to the kids house to visit with them. These kids are absolutely adorable. They are so loving, kind and happy! In spite of the circumstances in which they live, they are so happy. It’s amazing! Who wouldn’t want to be around such delightful people?

Happy Orphans

Happy Orphans

Happy Orphans

Before I went, I had African coffee, amazing scrambled eggs with tiny diced veggies, yellow colored “raisen” or fruit bread, fresh pineapple and fresh squeezed passion fruit juice. Phil told me this juice was sqeezed by hand and forced through a strainer by the ladies Susan hired to cook for us. I passed through the kitchen and seen one pushing something through a mesh wire, but had no clue what was going on. Their ways of cooking are very simple. Everything is killed, cut, squeezed and cooked fresh. Can you say yum! I wish I could serve you this awesome African tea.

After breakfast Jacque was antsy to go see Fiona, and to take Mariko to the orphanage. We played a little soccer in the missionary house yard, then left to the kids house. Mike and Kenny went with us while the rest of the team worked at the missionary house. We said goodbye to Mariko from the kids house. She had to get back to work in Kampala.

Caning on the Farm

We stayed a hour or two longer. until Phil and the rest of the team came to get us in the van and take us to the farm. The kids had planted maize and potatoes on their farm, spending days clearing the land and planting it by hand only to have the termites eat up all the maize. There wasn’t enough money to pay for pesticides to keep the termites away. The termite mounds were huge and taller than me.

Susan Caning Mike on the Farm

Susan Caning Mike on the Farm

As we walked the property line, Mike volunteered to have Susan cane him like she does when disciplining the children. She tapped him at first and Mike said, “Do it like you normally do.” “Caning” is done with a stick or cane about 3/4′s to one inch in diameter and it’s used to whop the tail end of the disobedient while they lay on the ground. Susan obliged and whacked Mike good. It stung him well and frightened me good. I wouldn’t cross Susan for nothing!

After everyone laughed quite nervously at Mike’s reaction to his stinging back side, we picked bananas, dug sweet potatoes and cleaned up Susan’s grandmother’s grave (it was her grandmother’s land given to use for the orphans). We carried the produce back to the van and the family at the nearby house fed us lunch. Susan had given them the goods to cook for us. We were escorted into the house where benches lined the walls. We sat and the family brought water for us to wash our hands and placed food on other benches in front of us. Then they left the room for us to eat together without them.

Dining on the Farm
Dining on the Farm

 

Honoring Mama

I finished eating before the others and sat visiting with them when a woman brought me a baby to hold. I think it must be customary for the oldest female visitor to be given the youngest baby to oo and ah over. It’s sort of funny that I’d be given the baby. I’m not typically one to take up babies when I see them, and Jacque, on the other hand, wanted to hold them.

Honored by Holding Baby

Honored by Holding Baby

After lunch we were taken outside to lay on grass mats under the trees. While many of the team napped, I watched the women noticing my hair. I pulled the pony tail down and let them touch my mzungu (I bought a t-shirt that had muzungu spelled mzungu) hair. It was so pleasant outside. I asked Susan if anyone ever slept out under the stars at night. (Remember there isn’t any air-conditioning in the houses). She said, “Never.” When pressed she said it is very dangerous to be outside at night. Thieves, drunkards and murderers and such will hurt you. I noticed that even though we were on Susan’s family’s land she locked the doors of the vans. Nothing is safe, even with family.

After a while we drove back to the missionary house, part of the team worked on beds and stuff at the house and the rest of us walked to the kid’s house to set up more solar lights. After being at the orphanage for a while, darkness was closing in and we needed to leave. The lights weren’t finished and I had a terrible time getting the guys to quit work to get back home. Once we left. I felt terribly unsafe, remembering what Susan told me. The bars were already playing music and lit up with flashing lights. I was very nervous. When we got back I thought Susan was going to cane all of us.

Fear, Tired and Blindside

As a group of people on mission get tired, the opportunity for disgruntled attitudes and behavior increases. Our team was nearing weariness. All of us, although testy, gave grace in all situations and didn’t give in to selfish type of reactions. Personally, I was on the brink of blowing and needed a break. What better break than a movie.

The power went out again. James and I came up with the idea of telling stories using a narrator (Chuck), and child actors behind a sheet with flashlights to make silhouettes. We told of David and Goliath, and the story of Job. The kids laughed, but not near as loud as they clapped when the power came back on.

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A ruckus took place at the gate of the mission house. Someone was lurking and peeping which in this culture is usually done by thieves and such. Moses, Susan, Phil and other local leaders took the man and called the police. Our team knew something was going on, but were told to keep working with the kids and act like nothing was wrong. After the night was over, Phil told us the gravity of the situation. This is why we weren’t supposed to tell people in the community where we were staying or who we were with. I felt like Lot’s visitor in Sodom and Gomorra.
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We settled into the private back courtyard for the viewing. I don’t know who chose the movie. I watching the kids watch “The Blindside” with Sandra Bullock. Try watching that movie with a bunch of dark, skinned African orphans. It sure changes the perspective, especially since before Big Mike moved in with Sandra, he had so much more than the orphans here have. I watched the kids laugh at the short mzungu little brother. They were enjoying the movie. Due to time, Phil stopped the movie in the middle of it and planned on finishing it the next night.

A side note to the evening, another 10 or 12 year old orphan girl took Fiona and kept her occupied away from Jacque the whole night. Later we talked with Phil about it and he said he’d talk with the girl to make sure jealousy wasn’t creeping in. These kids were creeping into our hearts and we wouldn’t want jealousy to have any room.

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This post is part of the Living and Working on Mission Blog Series and you can read more about our trip in the previous Uganda posts. If you enjoyed it you may also like the Insights into Ministry & Leadership Series, the Spiritual Journey’s Gentle Nudges Series or the otherBlog Series.

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A Little Work and Monkey Business in Uganda

Up early again, this day we ate breakfast then walked over to the orphanage. We found that most of the older kids were going to exams at school so we didn’t get to meet with them for Bible study, but we got some work done.

A Little Work

James Plastering Orphanage Wall

James Plastering Orphanage Wall

The men of our team and some of the boys plastered the orphanage wall in prep for painting a sign on it. Jacque and I played with the children. I played Skip-Bo with them and learned that they mean business when playing cards! Jacque’s heart strings were yanked for a little girl named Fiona. Her smile is brilliant and her giggles delightful. Africans of all ages are very ticklish. They carry their babies on their back in a cloth that ties in the front. When the children get a little older they hold themselves on. Fiona, while riding on Jacque’s back, would tickle Jacque and then giggle herself. Then Fiona would lay her head on Jacque’s back with the most awesome look of contentment on her face. The kind of look that I might have while tasting chocolate fudge Blue Bell. Fiona’s eyes sort of rolled back in contentment. A picture of Fiona eating while sitting next to Jacque is posted here.

Some Monkey Business

After lunchtime with the orphans, we loaded into the van with some short, sweet bananas and bread then drove an hour away to see baboons. I was a little hungry since I didn’t eat with the orphans, so I peeled a banana and said, “Hey Susan. The bananas are for baboons, eh?” Then gave Chuck a bite of the banana. Susan and the rest laughed.

Baboon and Baby

Baboon and Baby

Big Man Baboon

Big Man Baboon

We rode for a while and I may have tried to nap. I’ve found closing my eyes helps me breathe when riding in Uganda (see previous post about driving conditions). After a while, we saw some baboons on the side of the road. We pulled over to watch and feed them. Staying in the van, we took pictures from the windows. There were at least 5 babies with their mammas and a few big males. The largest male was bossy and took the bread and bananas quickly away from the others and ate them himself. We saw a baby nursing and holding onto the stomach of it’s mother, but most of the babies were older and rode hugging the back of the mommas. The male pushed the others around by showing his teeth and squealing. His teeth were huge! I kept my fingers and hands inside the van fearing they might be mistaken for bananas and get chomped off.

After baboon watching, we napped on the ride home. Our team was getting very tired. The kids were to be at the house for a movie night at 6:30, but when we drove up the kids were already there. I was excited to see them even though I was tired. Their smiles and joy to see us invigorated me. The electricity was out which meant no movie could be watched. The kids were bummed because of it. Truth is, we were too. We visited and played games with them for a while.

New Muzungu

Jacque and Mariko, the New Mzungu

Jacque and Mariko, the New Mzungu

Mariko, a Japanese friend that went to School in Iowa with Jacque, showed up at the gate while we were visiting with the children. She is with a Japanese organization sort of like a peace corp working in Kampala, Uganda for the past year and a half. The kids thought she was a strange looking muzungu (white person). Mariko went inside to see Jacque and the orphans gathered around me and asked why she was different. We visited and I answered all kinds of questions about America and airplanes and all sorts of things. These kids love learning. It’s amazing. As it neared dark, they left to walk home.

It was obvious to everyone, Susan included, that a little orphan girl named Fiona connected with Jacque and Mike in an amazing way. Jacque was sitting next to Fiona as she ate in this picture. As we came in for a late dinner, Susan announced, “I think I’ll give that baby to Jacque.” I cried when I heard that it was a possibility to give that little girl a home.

Since the power came back on I stayed up even later trying to post while the internet was working. Patience, patience, patience. It’s slower than dial up and drops signal often. Waiting, redoing, and watching uploads til all hours of the morning long after the team got in bed. Blogging from Uganda is very hard work.

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This post is part of the Living and Working on Mission Blog Series and you can read more about our trip in the previous Uganda posts. If you enjoyed it you may also like the Insights into Ministry & Leadership Series, the Spiritual Journey’s Gentle Nudges Series or the otherBlog Series.

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